There are many out there that are being held in a personal prison of anger towards others and themselves. Some people have not forgiven those who they are angry with. Others feel there is no way they (much less God) can ever forgive themselves for whatever sin they committed. Like any God-loving preacher, this distresses me when someone tells me of these things and it gives me additional burden to reach out to this person and try to show them some modicum of peace. So the subject of this month’s newsletter is:
Forgiveness
Yesterday is a wrinkle on your forehead
Yesterday is a promise that you’ve broken
Don’t close your eyes, don’t close your eyes
This is your life and today is all you’ve got now
And today is all you’ll ever have
“Are You Who You Want to Be” – Lyrics by: Switchfoot, 2004
Yesterday is a promise that you’ve broken
Don’t close your eyes, don’t close your eyes
This is your life and today is all you’ve got now
And today is all you’ll ever have
“Are You Who You Want to Be” – Lyrics by: Switchfoot, 2004
The words of this song have a profound meaning if you take the time to listen. Whenever I have something heavy on my mind, my forehead creases and I get a “wrinkle on my forehead.” How many things do we carry around from our past? How many people are out there that have wronged you and you have not forgiven them? On the other hand, how many people out there have you wronged and not asked for forgiveness? How long will you keep that wrinkle on your forehead? I know that when I first became a believer, I had to sit down and actually think of all the people that I was angry with. I also had to think of all the people I had wronged and mislead. When I realized how long a list that was, it was a little daunting. Some of those on my list had wronged me in a big way. Yet there were others who I had wronged in just as grand a fashion. After looking at this list for a while, I put it away and ignored it for several months. I had “closed my eyes…”
But these lyrics make a very valid point to us as believers. Today is all you’ll ever have. There is no time machine that will allow us to go back and correct the wrongs we have committed. There is no way for another to go back and fix the insult given to you. Today is truly all we will ever have. You don’t know what will happen tomorrow. We can be snatched into eternity in the twinkling of an eye. When that happens, we have no more direct interaction on those around us. This is one reason why we should take witnessing seriously. The one thing we cannot do in Heaven is share our faith. When it comes to eternal matters, the things we do in life are critical. Scripture says, “While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.” (2 Cor 4:18) For the temporal and eternal well being of others, witnessing is imperative. For the temporal and eternal wellbeing of ourselves, forgiveness is equally imperative. But in all things, our focus must be primarily on the eternal.
Just to give you an example of how important forgiveness is in the Bible, I have found over 300 references to the concept of forgiveness throughout the Old and
New Testaments.
Forgive – 68
Pardon – 20
Atone – 84
Cleanse – 140
Reconcile – 15
Pardon – 20
Atone – 84
Cleanse – 140
Reconcile – 15
This is by no means a complete list. One of the underlying themes of the Bible is God’s people turning their backs on Him and His forgiving their transgression when they return to Him. One of the reasons Jesus took on human form was for the sake of forgiveness. Scripture tells us that the Son of Man has the power to forgive sins (the only way His righteousness and perfect justice could be put to rest was through His payment of our transgression. We could not do it, only He could – thus His ability to forgive our sin).
Forgiving Others
One of my favorite scenes in the New Testament is the one where Jesus is walking with His Apostles and one of them asks Him, “how many times should I forgive my brother, up to seven times?” Jesus’ answer leaves little room for speculation. He says, “not seven times, but seventy times seven times…” (paraphrased). Jesus is making this statement to illustrate that forgiveness should not know limits. We need to be able to forgive, no matter how many times or how great the transgression against us. Jesus teaches this throughout His ministry. “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (Mt 6:14).
Many years ago I dated a girl who I also worked with. We had many things in common and I thought that she might be “the one.” However, I knew that while she was not seeing anyone else and while we were not “exclusive,” she was interested in another co-worker of mine, who at the time I had also considered a friend. During this time I had planned to go up to my Dad’s property for a few months on a leave of absence from work. This girl and I spent every moment until my departure together. When I left for the mountains of Idaho, leaving her was one of my chief regrets. Further, the guy that I had considered a friend made a promise to me that he would not show any interest in her while I was gone.
During the first month, she and I wrote back and forth two or three times a week. These were deep emotional letters. Then the letters became infrequent and when they did arrive, they were very flat and “unemotional.” By the fourth month, I had only received one letter from her.
After my four months in the woods, I returned to society to find the girl I had thought would wait for me had in fact started dating my so-called friend and they were now living together. Needless to say, I was angry. Perhaps a better word would be “wrathful.” At that time I made it very clear to our mutual friends that I hated him and that I had better not meet him in a dark alley somewhere. I also told the girl that I wanted nothing to do with her and that if she ever saw me, turn the other way. As far as I was concerned, she no longer existed. I am sure you have probably figured out that I was not a Christian back then.
I carried that anger around with me for the next four years. When the opportunity to help this girl during her break up presented itself, I was too angry to even return her call. I do not even know where she is now and I have carried that burden for a long time.
How was I was wrong?
First off, when my friend broke his promise to me, I became angry with him. Now it is one thing to get upset, vent and then let it go. But, I was not simply upset, I hated him…I would have enjoyed seeing him in pain or dead. If the opportunity had presented itself, I would have beaten him to a pulp. That is what hatred is. You are so angry that you could see that person in agony or dead and feel no remorse. This is why Jesus equates hatred with murder in the Sermon on the Mount. He said that if we are angry with our brother, we are in danger of judgment and if we hate our brother, we are a murderer in the eyes of God and in danger of hell-fire. In my heart, I violated the Commandment that says, “thou shalt not commit murder.”
My anger also extended to the girl who had abandoned me. When she sought me out for help during their breakup, I ignored her. She wasn’t suicidal, she just wanted someone to talk to. But instead of being a shoulder for her to cry on, I was hard of heart. As a result of my unforgiving reaction, I turned her away. I could have shown mercy and I didn’t. After all these years now, I do not know what happened to either of them. I can only hope and pray that one day I will see them both so that I can ask for their forgiveness. I can only hope that I will be able to one day say to them, “I forgive you.”
God wants us to forgive those who sin against us. It is one of the core statements in the Lord’s Prayer. Do we not ask Him to “forgive our transgressions as we have forgiven those who have transgressed against us…”? When we forgive others, we show them the light that God has placed in us. Further more, when we are kind to our enemies, it plants a Gospel seed that takes root inside and perhaps they too will turn to God for mercy. Solomon wrote, “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat. And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for so you will heap coals of fire on his head, and the Lord will reward you.” (Proverbs 25:21). There is a reason Solomon was called wise…
God’s Forgiveness
King David’s life was often spent in prayer asking God for forgiveness. When David sinned with Bathsheba, he acknowledged that he had sinned against God and God alone. In his thirst for God’s righteousness and in humble fear, he begged God for mercy. The Psalmist King wrote extensively about forgiveness of sin. “Look on my affliction and my pain, and forgive all my sins” (Ps 25:18), “For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, and abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You” (Ps 86:5), and If You, Lord, should mark iniquities, O Lord, who could stand? But there is forgiveness with You, that You may be feared (Ps 130:3).
When we look at our many transgressions in life, we may wonder, “how is it that God could ever forgive me?” I know that is true in my life. I have done some pretty horrible things and hurt a lot of people. I have broken all Ten Commandments in spirit, if not in deed. I had not loved God with all my heart and I put Him last in all things. I had created a God to suit my own needs and thus created an idol. I used the Lord’s name like a cuss word. That is blasphemy. I never took a day of rest in respect to God’s directive about a Sabbath. I was a drug dealer in junior high and high school and in so doing, dishonored my parents. I had hated another person and as we discussed earlier, in God’s eyes that is murder. In having a sexual relationship without being married, I had committed adultery in God’s eyes. I have stolen things, and that made me a thief. I have lied and bore false witness. I had coveted those things that were not mine. Folks, if ever there was one in need of God’s mercy and forgiveness, I am he. And yet, how could He possibly forgive me?
I find that one of the most amazing things about God is that He created us knowing full well that we would fail. And He knew it would not be a small failure. He knew that our fall would be so great that the only thing that could fix the problem was the death of His only Son. And yet, “God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him.” (Romans 5:8).
Do you understand what Paul is saying? He is telling us that despite the fact that we are still committing crimes against God’s Holy Law and even in our ingratitude for everything, He still bled and died so that we would not have to pay the penalty of our sin. God forbid that I should boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ! By whom the world has been crucified to me and I to the world! (Gal 6:14) His love for us is so great that He provided a way out of our sin, despite it costing Him His own life! Oh how powerful His love is!
The Apostle John put it like this: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 Jn 1:9). If we ask and repent, we can be forgiven of every sin we have or will ever commit. Do not take that wrong, this is not a license to sin. It is our way to be purified and avoid our just punishment. Jesus said that if we do not repent there is no salvation. We need to turn from our behavior that was sinful and turn back to God. When we slip up and commit sin, we should forsake it and then we can be washed clean. It is then that the Apostle’s directive can have effect.
Forgive Yourself
Forgive Yourself
Some of you out there may not have trouble forgiving others. However, when you have sinned against another and they have forgiven you, you cannot accept it. When God gives a promise like He did in 1 John 1:9, you do not think it applies to you. Further, you will not forgive yourself.
Can you really look at the extreme cost that God paid for you and tell Him, “You can’t forgive me…”? Even the most horrible of transgressions against people, God will forgive us if we come to Him with a humble and broken heart. “He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins…” To say you cannot be forgiven, is to call God a liar and to reject that tremendous, immeasurable love He has for us.
It is OK to be angry with yourself. We need to reflect on our behavior so that we do not repeat those things that are harmful to others. Be angry for a time, but accept the incredible blessing that God has given you. To harden your heart to your own forgiveness means that your opinion is greater than God’s. This is a wrongful order of priority. This mindset is fatal. Rejecting God’s forgiveness means that you want to be judged by the Law. If that is the choice, then you have chosen damnation and eternal torment, “for no one is righteous, no not one…”
Don’t make that choice! Choose as I have. Choose forgiveness. Choose Christ! His forgiveness has no bounds. I do not want to be looking over at you on that great and terrible day when God separates those He has redeemed from the unrepentant. I want you in the same assembly I am in. The assembly that despite all of our sins, we have been washed clean in the Blood of the Lamb. I want to see all of you at that great wedding supper of Jesus as He presents His bride to the Father, holy and without blemish. That perfect jewel, the Body of Christ.
Whether you have a friend or family member who has continually wronged you, whether you have wronged someone else, give and receive forgiveness. If you are not willing to be forgiven, cry out to the Lord of all mercy and ask Him to change your heart. Saints please, I beg of you, don’t resist the Holy Spirit! He calls to you as a husband calls his bride. His love is sacrificial to the point of His own death so that He could redeem you and call you His own. He will remake you and teach you to walk in His statutes. He will make you His bride and dress you in white. He will take away every imperfection and purify you. All you have to do is step up to His altar and say “I do.”


